Diving into the Arts!

As we switch into December, the new theme for The Free Your Mind Project is ARTISTIC EXPRESSION!!!

For many, art in any capacity is a form of release, a stress reliever. Whether its dance, writing, photography, sketching, painting, acting, singing, videography, etc. art is not only a hobby but a way to express emotions and escape reality when needed. In 2010, the American Journal of Public Health published an article talking about the positive effects art can have. After reviewing several studies, they found that “creative engagement can decrease anxiety, stress, and mood disturbances…through creativity and imagination, we find our identity and reservoir of healing.” Simply put, art is good for you and it makes you feel better. And I can personally attest to that fact.

Reflecting on what makes me happy, the obvious comes to mind: family and friends, but

when I was little the first thing I would say was drawing. Give me a pen and paper and I could be occupied for hours. In fact, I not only sketched often but played the piano and wrote short poems. However, as I’ve gotten older, those things have taken a backseat to the “priorities” I’ve acquired over the years…

But for many who stuck with it, art has become a vital part of their identity and personal expression. And this month on the blog, I’ll be celebrating those women who’ve made art an integral part of their lives. I’ll be featuring a dancer, a singer, a graphic artist, a photographer and a director.

Stay tuned 🙂

Loc’d Love!


Age: 20

Occupation: Student at Morgan State University; Plans on being a wedding planner

Hometown: Bowie, MD

Why did you decide to lock your hair?

I didn’t have a life changing reason like most people do; I wanted to lock my hair

Before Transitioning...

Before Transitioning…

since the 9th grade when I got my hair done in kinky twists. I thought “I would look so nice with dreads!” and just stuck to it. Once I went natural, my hair felt like it was easier to manage and not as coarse. After I got into my natural transition, I did start to view me locking my hair as a journey. Locking my hair is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. The whole “press and curl” look has never been for me. Never will be.

A lot of people have opinions about loc’d hair, any myths about locs you want to talk about?

One myth people assume (including me) is that you



can’t wash your hair during the locking process. FALSE. I washed my hair from the moment I began my locks. Granted, depending on your hair texture you should wait a little longer but you can definitely wash your hair while your hair transitions. Another thing I hate people saying to me is “your hair is too nice for locs” or before I locked my hair “awww why do you want to lock your hair it’s so nice and thick”…that really gets under my skin. People with locs do not have ugly or unattractive hair. It really irks me how people associate locs with being bad..which is why I try not to use to the term “dreads” or “dreadlocks,” because the word “dread” associates it with being bad. Another myth is that people with locs are assumed to be dirty. Most people with locs,especially African Americans, have a personal reason behind why they did it and others have them because of their Rastafarian lifestyle.



What are your favorite products/ ways to take care of your hair?

Since I mainly go to the shop to get my hair retwisted, I don’t have a specific product that I use for my hair. But for oils, my favorite one to put in my hair is coconut oil. I oil my hair about every other day to keep my locs and scalp from getting too dry.

Any tips for other girls going through the locking process?

Just be patient and make sure locking your hair is something you really want to do. If you’re serious about it, the process will become a journey.

brinea6Want to get in touch with Brinea?

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“Maintaining a Natural Essence”

JASMINE jasmine5

Age: 21

Occupation: Bachelor of Music 2014, College Senior, Singer/Actress/Makeup Artist

Hometown: Prince George’s County, MD


1. How long have you been natural, what made you decide to go natural?   

I’ve been natural for almost 5 years now. I decided to go natural in my senior year of high school when I discovered YouTube! I subscribed to a lot of female YouTubers for their makeup tutorials, but many of them were naturals and posted hair tutorials as well. Watching their hair tutorials inspired me to try something new with my hair. Besides, I was never good at maintaining my straight/permed hair in the first place.jasmine2

   After I went natural I started finding new reasons why I love being natural and would never go back to permed hair. I can be very much analytical and when I thought about the notion of having to change part of me that was designed by God and given to me uniquely just to fit in with everyone else or succumb to other people’s standard of beauty that may or may not be my own, I decided against it. Not to say that everyone with a perm doesn’t appreciate themselves for who they are, but I just don’t feel the need to change my hair texture permanently for any reason. I actually got my perm in high school because it was suggested to me by my cheer-leading coaches so that the team could preserve their “image”. This mentality is just plain wrong.


jasmine12. Why do you love being natural?

    Being natural makes me feel free! And on so many levels. I feel the most like myself. I feel confident and unapologetic about who I am, and how I was created. I’m not trying to be like anyone else but me. Having natural hair is such an empowering experience. My hair is big, strong, stubborn and a whole lot of other adjectives that can also be used to describe who I am. I love it! Plus natural hair is so versatile. I can straighten it when I want, stretch my curls, or not. I also love that when it rains I don’t have to run for cover! And I can go swimming any time……


3. What is your hair regiment?

    My regiment changes based on what my hair needs, and I know that from really getting to know my hair and knowing the signs of poor regiment (dry hair, lots of tangles, split ends, etc.) I can get a little lazy, so I’ll just tell you what I should be doing, and what I actually do for my hair right now. I should be cowashing my hair every other day and washing it with non-sulfate shampoo once a week. As of right now, I’ve only been cowashing twice a week (yikes!) I should also be using a leave-in conditioner every time I wet my hair. I ran out of leave-in and haven’t been to the store, so I’m currently using Eco Styler Gel and Shea Moisture Curl & Style Milk.

    One thing I never change is how I detangle and handle my curls, because it’s so important for my hair!  I always detangle in the shower while I’m conditioning my hair. I finger-detangle, which causes less breakage (and less pain) and leaves my curls more intact when I’m going for a more polished look. I’m thorough with detangling because once I’m out of the shower I do not rake my fingers or comb through my hair ever again. If I do, I’ll end up with a lot of frizz or just really big hair. That said, when I do want big hair, then I’ll detangle again after getting out of the shower.jasmine3

    I’m still in school, so I LOVE to wear wash-and-go styles, but I’ve also done a lot of braid outs in the past and those are nice too. To be honest, my favorite style right now is the Top-Knot which anyone of any hair texture can do as long as the hair is long enough. I don’t do a lot of protective styling, but I will soon because my hair needs a break from all of the tangles.


4. Any tips or advice for girls going natural?

    Embrace the changes!! Going natural is extremely hard if you haven’t already accepted that everything about how you treat and view your hair might change. The best thing to do is to right away find reasons to love your hair just the way it is. Don’t try to treat your natural hair like your permed hair. You may find yourself not using a comb as much, or not trying to wrap your hair, or not using heat. These are all good and acceptable changes.

    Also, give yourself and your hair time to adjust to the change. A lot of people try to transition and end up quitting because their hair didn’t grow enough, or they didn’t look the same as before. Hair growth and developing health takes a lot of time, but it’s so worth it! And you’re not going to look exactly the same with a new hair texture and/or length. Own your new look!

   jasmine4 If it helps, get with a support group! On the University of Maryland campus, we have Maintaining A Natural Essence, a new organization that focuses on natural hair, healthy lifestyle, and positive self-image. There are plenty of blogs, channels, and organizations out there to help you along your journey.

Want to connect with Jasmine?

Instagram: @mzpr1madonna

Twitter: @mzpr1madonna

Website: www.jasminelachae.com

M.A.N.E.: www.wordpress.marylandmane.com

All Natural Skin Remedies!

Glowing, clear skin is an ultimate beauty goal for many women. But due to daily stresses, environmental factors and even genetics, clear skin can be hard to get and maintain. Acne and scarring are things that many women deal with at some point in their lives, some more  than others. Below I have compiled some all natural remedies for clear skin.

Please note, these tips don’t treat the cause of acne and breakouts, but help reduce the symptoms. To treat mild to moderate acne, you can try over the counter products. Look for products that contain Benzoyl Peroxide, Salicylic Acid, Sulfur and Alpha Hydroxy Acids. For more severe  breakouts, try visiting a dermatologist.


1. HONEY: Honey is an antiseptic, meaning it helps get rid of bacteria on your skin that causes acne. Applying honey to your skin can prevent acne from getting worst. Honey also works as an anti-inflammatory to prevent swelling and redness. However, please note that severe acne is caused by bacteria buildup in the skin. If your pores are clogged, honey can relieve the symptoms of already formed acne but cannot get inside your pores to prevent future breakouts.



1. Make sure you buy RAW honey, processed honey can irritate your skin.

2. Wash your face first with mild soap and lukewarm water. Massage your face with just your fingertips; don’t use a towel or scrub (this causes irritation). Pat dry with a soft towel.

3.Before your skin dries, apply the raw honey to your face using wet hands. Massage it into your skin and allow it to stay on for at least a couple of minutes



2. LEMON JUICE: Lemon juice works as a mild astringent and an antiseptic. Applying lemon juice to your skin reduces that oil and bacteria that can clog your pores and cause breakouts, reduce redness and some say it helps to relieve acne scarring. Be careful though, lemon juice should not be used on fresh cuts or dry skin.



1. Wash your face with mild soap and lukewarm water and allow to dry for 5-10 minutes.

2. Dip a cotton ball into freshly squeezed lemon juice (slight stinging or itching sensation is normal)

3.After 20-30 minutes rinse your face with warm water and apply a moisturizer.


3. BAKING SODA: Baking soda has antiseptic and anti-fungal qualities, it can work as an effective exfoliant that removes dead skin cells from the surface of your skin. Used as an exfoliant it can help even your skin tone and decrease redness. Though baking soda can reduce the symptoms of acne it has no effect on the causes of acne, it will not decrease the probability of breakouts. Also, avoid using baking soda on any type of open cuts or sores.



1. Create a paste and apply to your skin. Mix ⅓ tablespoon of baking soda with a full tablespoon of water.

2. To test for allergies, apply a small amount to your arm and let it sit for 5 minutes to see if you have a reaction.

3. If no reaction occurs, use your fingertips to lightly massage the paste onto your face, continue this for 1-2 minutes.

4. Let the paste sit for 5 to 10 minutes MAXIMUM.

5. Use lukewarm water and your bare hands to rinse off your face, pat dry with a soft towel.


4. TEA TREE OIL: Tea Tree oil has disinfecting and soothing properties to reduce the symptoms of acne. It also does not strip your skin of its natural oils and dry out your skin. Because its so potent you only  need a small amount! Put a few drops on a q-tip and apply to acne.

Things to Remember:

-Toothpaste is meant for your teeth, not your skin.
-It takes about 6-10 weeks for acne to heal, don’t stop treatment just because you don’t see results right away!
-Diet can have an effect on your skin! The less processed food, the healthier your skin will be.
-Wash your face before you go to sleep, while you sleep your skin absorbs whatever is left on it from the day.
-Drink water! Water not only flushes toxins from your body but leaves skin hydrated and naturally glowing.

Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder

Hey F.Y.M. Project Readers! First of all, I want to say THANK YOU for all of the support during the first month of the blog! I had no expectations and was overwhelmed with all the positive responses and words of encouragement. I want to remind you guys to like us on Facebook at  https://www.facebook.com/thefymproject?ref=hl and follow us on Instagram @fymproject.

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As we move into a new month, I’m excited to introduce a new topic on the blog! October’s theme on the Free Your Mind Project will be Beauty! We’ll be talking about our favorite beauty tips, products and interviewing an amazing freelance makeup artist!

Now, in the same way that women everywhere are plagued by body standards, there are plenty of opinions about what is beautiful. But you know the one thing that *everyone* says is the most attractive quality?


Loving yourself, appreciating all you have to offer and not apologizing for your imperfections. That’s what true beauty is and it isn’t something that comes in a bottle. Just like there is no standard on the type of body you have, there are no rules on what makes you beautiful. Whether you’re a makeup junkie or prefer the natural look, everyone has their thing that makes them feel amazing.

Between the product advertisements, cosmetic surgery and articles everywhere claiming so and so is the most beautiful woman in the world, we have become obsessed with beauty. Its hard to find where we stand in all the craziness. Well, as cheesy as it sounds take a moment and really think about the saying “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” Everyone has a different opinion. The more you compare yourself to other’s views of beauty, the less you recognize the beauty in yourself. Keep in mind that the only person whose opinion matters is the one you see when you stand in front of a mirror. ❤

Taking Care of Your Body, Inside and Out

A lot of us are quick to critique our exterior selves, but what we put into our bodies has a lot to do with our outward appearance. Exercise undoubtedly has many important physical and mental health benefits but clean eating INCREASES those benefits. I’m not saying we have to completely give up our favorite dessert or ban french fries but switching out processed and fatty foods for more healthy alternatives will increase energy levels, clear up your skin and help our digestive system.

As a recovering ice cream addict myself, beginning the journey to clean eating can seem overwhelming. Old habits die hard, especially when we’re stressed out or get those late-night cravings. So, to help y’all out I’ve compiled a list of some great diet tips and pages where you can get recipes and inspiration…


10 Clean Tips to A Better Diet:

1. Drink MORE Water, our bodies are made up of 50-75% water. We need about 8 glasses of water a day to properly hydrate ourselves. Water helps to flush out toxins which leads to brighter, clearer skin as well as more energy. Also when we think we’re hungry, we might just be dehydrated. Drink a glass of water before a snack or meal and see how much less you eat.

via @fijipearl's instagram page

via @fijipearl’s instagram page

2. Start Juicing! I am a huge fan of juicing because its an easy way to meet your daily requirement of fruits and veggies and you have an endless amount of ways to mix them. A lot of the fruit juices advertised and sold in stores is full of sugar, preservatives and additives. Sadly, even Naked had to remove “All Natural” from their label. If you don’t have a food processor, juicer, or blender I highly suggest investing in one so you can make your own homemade juices and smoothies.

3. Cook with Color (and I’m not talking about Red Dye #40). Adding more colorful fruits and vegetables when you cook not only makes your food better to look at, but it adds flavor and important vitamins and nutrients to your meals.

4. Eat Breakfast! Everyone says breakfast is the most important meal of the day, and its true! Note the words “break” and “fast,” from the time we go to sleep and the time we wake up, that’s about 6-8 hours of no water and no food, our bodies are literally fasting while we sleep and it is essential to replenish ourselves once we wake up. Whether its a full continental breakfast or just an apple and some yogurt, eating in the morning jump starts your metabolism and prevents you from making that unnecessary trip to the vending machines before lunch.

5. Read the Labels! I can’t expect anyone to get rid of ALL prepackaged foods from photo 1their diet. So when you go to the store and are making decisions about what products to buy, take a quick look at the Nutrition Label. The most important thing to remember: less is more. The shorter the list of ingredients, the better. And if you have to sound out an ingredient because its 10 syllables long and you’ve never heard of it before? Put that box back.

6. Delete Fast Food from your diet. Entirely. I don’t think I need to explain to you the health risks associated with fast food. (If you haven’t already, watch the documentary Super-Size Me) Taking the extra time to plan and cook your own meals throughout the week not only saves you from the salty, fatty and sugary meals that lead to high cholesterol and other health problems, it also saves your wallet.

7. Balance your meals. Cutting out entire food groups from your diet is just as detrimental as binge-ing on one food group. Instead of giving up bread eat whole grain. Rather than giving up all dairy products, try almond milk or unprocessed cheeses. Each food group has its health benefits that are necessary for your body.

photo 28. Be creative with your cravings. A few weeks into clean eating, that Ben & Jerry’s is starting to look reallyyyy friendly, and it would be so easy to just get a spoonful…but you have to fight it! There is nothing wrong with a cheat meal every now and then but one cheat meal can lead us right back into our old eating habits. When you have a craving, try to find a recipe that can substitute a prepackaged or drive-through meal. Craving chips? Slice some potatoes and fry them in a little olive oil and a *sprinkle of sea salt. Want ice cream? Find a recipe online and make your own. For every craving there is a healthier alternative, I promise you.

9. Take your time when you eat. It’s hard to slow yourself down, especially when you’re eating your favorite meal, but taking your time when you chew helps your digestive system and prevents you from overeating.

10. Remember, one cheat meal doesn’t break you like one healthy meal doesn’t make you. Clean eating is not a destination, its a lifestyle change the requires daily decisions.


Well, there you have it! Need more inspiration? Here are some pages to follow on other networks:

Twitter Pages to Follow: @EatNutritious @FITNESS @sugar_nation @EatThisNotThat @healthyeats @FOODILY

Instagram Pages to Follow: @fijipearl @blackgirlsjuice @eatnutritious @veganmetolife @my_healthy_habit

Slim-Figured Girls Love Fitness Too!


Age: 20

Occupation: Earning Bachelor of Science in Behavioral & Community Health; Pursuing image (1)Career as an Occupational Therapist

Hometown: London, UK


Q: Describe your body metamorphosis. How have you grown to love your body more now as compared to before?

A: I’ve pretty much been skinny all my life. Some people would say that I was lucky to have a slim figure because it was the “ideal” body type. While I would receive some compliments here and there, looking back, I definitely had body image issues. On one hand, I had people saying “you could be a model.” On the other hand, people thought I was too skinny and would encourage me to eat more. I was in middle school when my body images issues really began to develop. Not only was I skinny, but I wasn’t “maturing” as fast as other girls. I started to secretly hate what I’d see when I looked in a mirror.

Then one day, I stared at my reflection and had a life changing conversation with myself. I asked myself, “What are you doing? Why do you care so much about what other people say or think?” As much as it sounds like I took this all from a feel-good, cliche-filled movie, that really was the moment my life changed. I stopped listening to what others were saying and started thinking and feeling for myself. That was almost a decade ago. Here I am at 20 and I love what I see when I look at myself. I’m not perfect, but then again, who has the correct definition for perfection?

Just like when I was younger, people are still either telling me that I have the perfect figure or that I should eat a little more to put on more weight. On top of that, a couple months ago, I began my fitness journey which now includes a lot of weight-lifting. Some question why I want to gain muscle mass while others congratulate and compliment my progress. Everyone has an opinion! The difference now is that I don’t laugh when people say things and try to hide a feeling of self-consciousness or self-hate. I just…laugh. Haha! Why? People will always have a compliment, a critique, an opinion on the choices I make. At the end of the day, though, this is MY body and I have to live in it. All that matters is what I’m thinking and feeling.


Q: What are your favorite ways to stay healthy?

A: I LOVE FOOD! Since beginning my fitness journey, food has played one of the most important roles. Although, in the past, I wasn’t what you would call a fast food junkie, I didn’t pay that much attention to what I was putting in my body. Fried foods, sugar, and salt were ever present in my daily diet. Thanks to my high metabolism, I’ve managed to never go above 120 lbs. However, health goes far beyond one’s physical appearance. Now that I’m a “clean” eater, I not only look, but FEEL my best. I eat lots of protein, fruits and vegetables and am working on increasing my water intake. I love eating and have been incorporating a lot of new, clean recipes in my diet. It’s definitely my favorite way to stay healthy.

I also have grown to love weight-lifting. When I first started to work out, I did a lot of cardio. The pounds started melting off, but I wasn’t building much muscle. Now that I’m weight-lifting, I see much more muscle growth and I’m loving every second of it! I love pushing myself and seeing the physical progress I’m making. It’s amazing to see what the human body is capable of doing with a little motivation and some heavy weights!

photoQ: What inspired you to get/stay healthy?

A: I used to be one of those people who always said, “I should start working out” or “I need to go to the gym.” A couple of months ago, I created an Instagram account. I don’t remember exactly how I stumbled upon fitness pages, but before long, I was hooked! (Some of Grace’s favorite Instagram pages are @ashleyfreeman, @sammybfit & @kee_ma_la_shmexy) I saw all these women documenting their fitness journeys through pictures and videos. Their transformations are amazing. While some are professional figure or bikini competitors, most of those I follow on Instagram are regular people just like me. I’ve always wanted to put on a little weight, build muscle, and whip my diet into shape. I just continued to tell myself, “I’ll start tomorrow.” Enough was enough! After seeing the progress other women were making, I decided it was time to put my words into action.

I started going to the gym regularly and slowly making changes to my diet. Fast forward a couple months and i’m looking more lean, seeing some muscle growth, and feeling my absolute best. Things aren’t perfect, though. I have lazy days when I don’t work out and “cheat” meals where I indulge in foods that no longer have a regular place in my diet. That doesn’t get me down. Once skipped workout or one cheat meal won’t make me unhealthy just like one workout or healthy meal won’t make me healthy. After all, life is about balance right?

More importantly, after beginning my fitness/health journey, what motivated me to KEEP this lifestyle are the changes I see and feel. My body surprises me every time I go to the gym and lift weights. Physically, I’m gaining muscle mass little by little and am moving steadily towards my targeted physique. Mentally and emotionally, I’m a happier person. My confidence level has boosted and I am enjoying life in ways I’d never imagined. It’s true what they say: be good to your body and it will be good to you.

Q: What advice would you give to other girls trying to get healthy?image

A: First and foremost, SET REALISTIC GOALS! Whether you want to change your diet, drop a few pounds, or build muscle, don’t set goals that require overnight miracles. These are LIFESTYLE changes and there isn’t a magic pill or one day miracle that will get you immediate results. Start off small and make little changes. Also, give yourself the credit you deserve! Don’t be hard on yourself because you dropped 2 lbs instead of 20. Don’t start calling yourself a failure because you indulged in the Brownie Obsession dessert at TGI Friday’s (oh my goodness…it’s so delicious!). You’re still down 2 pounds and you definitely deserve to treat yourself to some chocolatey goodness here and there. Always remember that SMALL PROGRESS IS STILL PROGRESS!

Secondly, don’t compare yourself to others. People make different choices. Everyone’s health journey will differ. When you look at yourself, don’t focus so much on where you want to end up. Continually remind yourself of how far you’ve come. Set goals, stay focused and keep going!

Last but not least, remember that being healthy isn’t a destination, but a lifestyle. Take it day by day. Don’t get so wrapped up in things that you forget to enjoy life. you’ve only got one life to live so make it worthwhile!


Want to see more of Grace?

Check out her instagram page @gymspired_grace!


Why You Shouldn’t Want a Body Like Your Favorite Celebrity

Celebrities are arguably the most admired people in society. We love them for their talents, their personalities and most of all, their looks. For many of us, our favorite celebrity holds our standard of beauty. Katy Perry, Rihanna, Halle Berry; all of these women are prized for their beauty and ability to seemingly look flawless whenever they are seen in public. But what many of us fail to realize, is that many of the images that we see of our favorite celebrities have been tampered with, some more than others. Every image in a magazine, commercial or billboard has most likely been retouched or photo-shopped.

Here are some examples:

Jennifer Lawrence is known for her portrayal of Katniss Everdeen, the main character from the Hunger Games series. On the left is her photograph before retouching, the right is after. In the edited image, Lawrence’s whole body has been slimmed, her arms, face, neck, bust, waist and thighs have all been thinned out to achieve an almost emaciated appearance.

Kim Kardashian, praised for her fashion and her booty. This socialite has been

under constant scrutiny for her curves. Are they real? Has she gone under the knife? Regardless of whatever rumors there are, in the image to the right we see a clear retouching of Kim’s body. The left is the original image and the right is the edited version. Her thighs and butt have been slimmed and her face given extra contour. Kim’s body has been made curvier by the increased space between her arm and right side and we see the lower left side of her abdomen cropped.


Beyonce doesn’t need much of an introduction. Her die hard fans adore her not only for her dancing and singing talent, business skills and commanding presence on stage but her curves as well. However, the image to the left shows her before and after retouching. In the right, we notice how her bust has been lifted, arm toned, waist cropped and even her calf muscle made less defined.


Now, I’m not posting these pictures to pinpoint our favorite celebrities’ flaws or be critical. I’m posting these pictures to tell all of these girls striving to look like Beyonce, BEYONCE DOES NOT LOOK LIKE BEYONCE. No doubt all of these women are beautiful, but the images we see of their bodies are modified and therefore unrealistic to try to obtain! Jennifer Lawrence’s curves are beautiful on their own, why is she made to look nearly emaciated in her edited pictures? Why are Kim’s legs and abdomen thinned? To have a curvier body and be proportional, you are going to have thicker legs and wider hips. And who’s stomach doesn’t have folds when they bend over? Why did they get rid of Beyonce’s calves? Shouldn’t we be proud of our muscles? The media creates and manipulates the images of beauty we try so hard to meet.

There is nothing wrong with admiring celebrities for their talent or skills, that is what got them famous. But just like everyone else, famous people are human, they have flaws. Nothing and nobody are perfect. The high standards we hold ourselves to trying to reach the level of perfection that celebrities seem to have is exhausting, because they are computer generated, not real! So, instead of hanging a poster of your favorite celebrity as motivation when you work out, hang a mirror. Admire yourself and marvel at your own beauty and progress. It is much more gratifying than trying to recreate someone else’s body in your own.


Full-Figured and Fabulous!

Age: 21Dziko 1
Occupation: Pursuing Master’s Degree in Counseling Psychology
Hometown: Bowie, Maryland


Q: Describe your body metamorphosis. How have you grown to love your body more now as compared to before?

A: My relationship with my body has been a very rocky one. I am 5’11” and I have always been tall. I had embraced being tall very early and even when people tried to tease me because of it, I was able to brush it off more easily than other things. Since I was always tall I would of course carry more weight, but around the age of 11, I started to gain a significant amount of weight. I never noticed there was an issue until I was ‘encouraged’ by my family to get on these various diets. I can’t tell you how many diets I’ve tried but none of them really worked. It was really hard for me to understand myself and what I looked like because I was constantly on these diets and getting certain remarks from my family, like there was something wrong with me. I eventually came to the conclusion that no matter how good I was at something, I wasn’t good enough because I was still fat.

Looking back on it at the age of 21, I’m pretty sure I was depressed throughout my adolescence. I was always the biggest person wherever I was. People would mistake me for  being older, I have even been mistaken for someone’s mother a couple of times. And at 14, 15, 16 years old, that’s not something you want to be mistaken for. All I wanted was to look like a teenager but I didn’t feel like I was. I didn’t enjoy it. Every year was the same. Like everyone else, I wanted to make a change and lose weight. I wanted to come back to school a different Dziko. So many times I would try this and I’d come back to school the same, or with another 20 lbs.

These feelings of disappointment and disgust with myself definitely did not help me achieve the sense of style that I wanted either. I wouldn’t say that I aspired to be a fashionista or anything, but I definitely looked up to ladies who always had a polished look every time they stepped out of the house. I wanted to feel that way, but because I felt such anguish in my body, I didn’t feel like I deserved to dress nice. I would wear sweat suits, jeans with a hoodie, baggy clothes and just things that never were really that flattering. It wasn’t until college that I decided to make better attempts to look better and feel better about my body.

Dziko2I truly believe that if you look good, you feel good! I found a lot of this inspiration when I discovered this subculture of body positivity that embraced full figured women and their passion to expand plus size fashion. I found various blogs of women who looked just like me and were flawless! (Some of the blogs Dziko found were: GarnerStlye.com, nadiaaboulhosn.com, kurvayshusb.com, TheBigGirlBlog.com, & stylechick360.com) They had style, fabulous wardrobes, and an amazing aura of confidence that i desperately wished I had. These blogs not only helped inspire me to make a better effort to dress nicer, but to take care of my body as well. A lot of these plus size bloggers that I came across debunked the myth that full-figured women were not active. I came across a lot of these blogger stores who were parallel to mine and they gained the courage to start their weight loss journeys.

I was so ecstatic to find people that I could FINALLY relate to. Being able to take control of my mind, body and spirit has most definitely helped me appreciate the body that I have. It makes me cry to think of how I wish my 11 year old self could see me now. I am definitely happier than I was 10 years ago. I didn’t think this type of confidence was possible for me. I have such a long journey ahead of me, but I am just amazed at the progress I have made. I still have a laundry list of insecurities to tackle, but I have the rest of my life to deal with them.  As long as God keep waking me up every morning, I am going to make a conscious effort to be a better person than I was the day before.


Q: What are your favorite ways to stay healthy?

A: Some of the behaviors that I practice to stay healthy are sleeping, exercising, eating balanced meals, drinking water, taking breaks, enjoying myself and smiling at myself. I am a believer in maintaining good mental health in addition to physical health. There are so many stressors and obstacles in each of our lives and often our mental health takes a huge beating. Mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, and PTSD are prominent disorders that plague millions of people and are often ignored and given the acknowledgement they need. Not only can these disorders negatively affect an individual’s mental health, but they can take a toll on physical health and disrupt daily life as well.

Simple things such as 6-8 hours of sleep, laughing, and looking at the mirror and smiling at yourself can help build and maintain a strong sense of self worth. As far as exercising goes I loveeee the elliptical. After feeling my way through different ways to get a cardio workout, I found that the elliptical was the most comfortable and I felt like i was getting the most out of my workout. I like doing an hour of cardio even though it is recommended that you only do 30 minutes.

I personally like to make the most of my time at the gym and for me, I’d rather spend an hour on the elliptical than sitting on the couch, eating something crappy. I also have found a strength training routine that works best for me. It was a bit harder to get comfortable with strength training because I knew little about it. But with the help of the internet and some friends that are more fitness savvy, I was able to find some workouts that I liked and were effective. Some of the strength training workouts that I do are bicep curls, tricep curls, weighted squats (my favorite) and lunges, and some variations of crunches (my least favorite).

Q: What advice would you give other women trying to get healthy?Dziko 3

A: 1. take it one day at a time. It’s not easy trying to go from being sedentary to a gym rat in one day, so don’t even try it lol. Take baby steps! Adjust something in your normal diet, like instead of fries or chips with a sandwich have a salad or some veggies instead. Include a walk a couple times a week. Start off on the treadmill or elliptical for 15 minutes and work from there.

2. LEARN TO FORGIVE YOURSELF! I feel this is so crucial to getting healthy. Maybe you’re feeling frustrated with yourself about the current state of your health. I’ve been there, and constantly reminding yourself of your mistakes is just going to set yourself up for failure. Don’t dwell on the past. Just focus on the better healthy choices you will be making and move forward.

3. Find supportive people to help you on your journey. It is hard to do by yourself and there will be people that may not understand what you’re going through so finding people that understand your journey can help you stay centered and focused on your goals.

4. Skipping meals is not going to make you skinny or healthier. you need to eat. And if you’re going hard core in the gym, not eating can end terribly. You gotta fuel your body! Focus on eating better foods. Avoid processed foods and you can never go wrong with veggies and protein!

5. STAY CONSISTENT! This is definitely something I struggle with as well so I’m saying all this to remind myself too! You gotta stay consistent with everything! Staying consistent with these healthy behaviors gets easy with time. But sometimes life happens. Stress gets the best of you or there’s a life change that occurs. Things like this may throw you off but you have to do your best to stick with it! Its sooooo easy to get off track and then get back to your old habits. Been there, done that lol So no matter what goes on in your life, stay on track. It may take a couple slip ups to figure it out but hey, they don’t call it a journey for nothing right?

6. LEARN TO LOVE THE BODY YOU HAVE! Very, very important. No matter how much weight you can lose, you can still have underlying resentment about your body and still have a lingering feeling of disappointment. This may be the toughest thing to overcome, to be honest. Take the time to appreciate you body! Do what makes you feel good! Throw on something that makes you feel nice! Slap on some make up! Give yourself some TLC! Take the time to understand yourself. Doing this makes the journey that much more worth it. And even so, you may not ever get to that specific goal but always appreciate the progress you’ve made and love the body at whatever state it is in. If you do, you’ll feel good =)



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Every Body is Different!

Every woman, regardless of her size, age or ethnicity, has dealt with body image. Positive or negative, women especially, are held to some very strict standards on how our bodies should look. Every day we are bombarded with opinions on what looks the best. Stop and think, as you go through your daily routine: your drive to work, surfing the internet, skimming a magazine in a waiting room, half-watching the commercials during your favorite show; how many images do we see of models? actors? celebrities? How many bodies do we see and how often do we think to ourselves: “I wish I had her…” or “If only I looked like…” After getting out of the shower and standing in front of the mirror, how many of us have poked at our “problem areas” or criticized some part of our body?

Trust me, I’ve been there. Body standards have been a plague upon women since, it seems, the beginning of time and body dissatisfaction is a natural result. Constantly comparing ourselves to other women and the images pushed through the media, how are we ever to be satisfied? But that’s the thing, if we are constantly looking at others, we can never truly come to appreciate the beauty that is in ourselves.

This month, the theme of the F.Y.M. Project, is Body Appreciation! Recognizing all body types and emphasizing the importance of HEALTH. The beauty of diversity is that we are not all the same! Everyone is built differently, so how can we all fit one standard? Forget what you see in magazines and music videos, stop and admire yourself. Instead of focusing on getting a body like your favorite celebrity or dropping or gaining so many pounds, focus on being healthy and the best YOU.